There are no foolproof formulas to ignite “him” heart. But a number of behaviors can help capture his attention and make him understand that we are the right girls to love.
Fortunately, there is no proven formula to make people fall in love, otherwise we would lose all the charm and beauty of a feeling that feeds on looks, doubts, heartbeats, uncertainties, sighs and dreams! However, we can try to develop a strategy based on observation, experience, intuition and wisdom to stir up a storm of love in the heart of our object of desire.
1) Talk to each other with the look
The glances, the glances, the peeks are very important. The eyes can speak for themselves, convey emotions, intentions, statements. We look the guy we like straight in the eye, with intensity, as if we wanted to tell him “I’d kiss you right away”, but as soon as he intercepts our gaze, we look away. It’s hard work, but it pays off. Shortly after we may discover that he is watching us and then we will be the ones to stare at him. And to give him a nice smile, perhaps with a knowing wink.
2) Create a special feeling
Intesa is just the right word because it is the necessary ingredient to create a feeling. The guy must perceive that he can be himself with us : we don’t approach him aggressively, we don’t stalk him like a stalker, we don’t suffocate him with continuous questions (everyone hates them). Let’s behave as if he were any friend, naturally and calmly. Only with a little extra attention : a good morning on whatsapp (but only one!), a pat on the back, a smile every now and then, a laugh at a joke from him. He will feel like our special friend.
3) Doubt teases love
One thing that spurs men to move is having the doubt that we no longer spin them. Twisted, huh? So, every now and then, while we’re with him, we change the object of our attention (a colleague, a cell phone, a sudden commitment), or we ignore him for a while. We will throw him off balance and he will feel lost and lost. And next time he’ll look for us first, pretending it’s a coincidence.
4) Talk about yourself to communicate
Talking about each other and listening are the basic factors of the feeling between two people. Above all, those who spend time together not by choice (this will come later) but out of necessity (read work) can find in the dialogue of small things the right dimension for an emotional encounter. Briefly narrating short anecdotes of one’s life, listening with interest to what our interlocutor has to tell us, lays the foundations for an important bond. However, let’s avoid telling heavy and whining stories: it’s better not to play the victim but to demonstrate that you have self-irony, sensitivity and spirit of initiative.
5) Laugh to understand each other
Guys love to see us laugh at their jokes and appreciate their witty verve. It’s very rewarding to make a girl smile because it means she’s relaxed, happy, and appreciates their funny side. So unless he’s just such an obnoxious bore (but then why do we like him?) let’s have a happy (but spontaneous) laugh when he says something hilarious, or laugh with him at something bizarre we witnessed together. Laughing is liberating, it helps communication, it breaks down superstructures. And he makes you fall in love.
6) There is no one like me
The guy we like should feel that we are unique, special, different from all the girls he knows. And we are amazing. Let’s talk to him about what we like, let’s show our unexpected talent (everyone is capable of being tiktokers, but we play the ukulele or write haiku – do you want to read one?), let’s tell him about some particular experience (like horseback riding – are you there? never been? If you want to go, I’ll accompany you). Anything can become the occasion for a meeting that brings important feelings. To our unusual proposals, he will feel challenged to relaunch with something equally singular to offer us, to show us the best of himself…
7) Sweetness, with grit
Everyone likes sweetness, us first. So let’s not fear having amiable but not cheesy manners. But we also show that we are intelligent, free, strong and independent girls : an iron fist in a velvet glove, in short! Let’s dare some compliments : boys like them, they tickle their ego and break down their shyness. Let’s show him our appreciation not only because he has a killer physique but also because he is a special man, available, prepared and also a troubleshooter. In fact, even if we are perfectly able to get by on our own, we ask him (occasionally) for help. He will be happy to demonstrate the skills of him.
8) We are as we are, always
Constructed, unnatural attitudes copied from someone we think are super cool are unmasked almost immediately and don’t do us a good service. We try to be ourselves because it is with us that he must fall in love, not with an unreal avatar. If we are sincere he will perceive that he has nothing to fear and he will always be able to trust us. In return, we appreciate his sincerity for the same reasons. Love is also understanding the mood of the other and respecting his needs.
9) The first step? Of course yes
If we understood each other, talked to each other, understood each other, shared sandwiches and problems, laughter and confidences, we can also take the first step. If we feel that the vibe is right, we dare a hug with noses close and place a light and short kiss on her mouth. The shy but decisive approach will give the green light to a real kiss. That will be a sign that he is involved and his interest in us has entered the “sentimental” phase.
10) Between emotion and madness
Liking each other, falling in love, being together, is a complex alchemical game that involves a million factors, flouts wise rules and clever advice and actually depends on no law but that of the heart. It is based on emotions, desire, the sudden need to be close, to smell each other, to share conversations and silences, serenity and intimacy. But also on a pinch of madness that makes us dare the imponderable. To make a boy fall in love, therefore, you need little reasoning and a lot of instinct, with only one “must”: respect for ourselves.
