Being sexy is a state of mind, it's true, but clothes can be real weapons of seduction! Here are the style rules that will make you feel like an authentic femme fatale.
Are you on the hunt for weapons of seduction for your wardrobe that can make Kim Basinger pale? If you aim to dress sexy but don't know where to start, don't worry: you're in the right place. But let's start from the beginning: sensuality has nothing to do with many (too many!) inches of exposed skin, with exaggerated necklines or fishnet stockings as a must-have for the occasion. She doesn't even have to do with wanting to charm others at all costs; in reality, it is more based on a particular self-confidence and on feeling good about oneself, rather than with others.
So what do the clothes have to do with it? They have something to do with it because they are part of a specific seduction ritual that has its roots in our culture and at the same time helps to acquire that extra security needed to get straight to the goal in addition to creating the right allure of course.
Knowing how to dress sexy is an art that starts from the bottom up, and you train a little at a time together with the class, arming yourself with personality and lots of good taste. Because when you are looking for a sensual look, the risk of slipping into not particularly refined outfits is around the corner, so be careful.
To make no mistakes, we have made a small handbook with 5 golden rules to refer to when looking for a sexy outfit: take note, play with the most charming clothes you have in your wardrobe, and have fun!
1. FOCUS ON YOUR STRENGTHS
To dress sexy, the first rule is to know each other! It may seem trivial but having a certain confidence in your body does not allow you both to be more confident and to understand how to value yourself. From a “ sexy look ” point of view, this awareness work is more important than ever, because once you become aware of your strength par excellence, it will be possible to do all-in on him, taking particular care to make the most of it.
Do you have the perfect measurements of “ The Body” Macpherson (or almost)? Emphasize harmonious proportions with form-fitting dresses that let her sense, like a pretty sheath dress. Do you have a killer back? Go for dresses that have a back neckline. Is your butt worthy of JLo? Don't hide it and stock up on tight pants and pencil skirts. Do you have perfect feet? Go with jeweled sandals and cropped trousers that leave the ankle well exposed. And so on.
In short, whatever your most attractive distinctive feature is, make the most of it: we are not all the same and it is useless to look for one universal way to dress sexy, isn't it?
2. PEEK-A-BOO AND NECKLINES
It's a principle as old as the world, but when thinking about how to dress to be attractive, it's worth remembering: it's not the inches of exposed skin that necessarily make a look travel straight on the tracks of sensuality. No sir.
Showing off everything about yourself isn't sexy, it's simply one choice among many (which is often based on trends but isn't always really intriguing). Sensuality is something impalpable, capable of tickling the imagination, don't you agree? So our advice is simple: play with the " peek-a-boo " and with tactical zones left in evidence with absolute discretion!
Transparencies, slits, cut-outs, and necklines in small doses or proposed in a "non-obvious" way – as a shirt knotted almost casually, a lace garment that lets you glimpse the bralette or a beautiful backless dress – are elements essential in a sensual outfit, all to be dosed and mixed with a certain mastery. What does it mean? Starting from your strong point, include a highlighted area within the look, but also take care to show only enough to trigger the imagination and to balance the game of "see-through" with the rest of the outfit without ever exceeding.
3. THE ROLE OF LINGERIE
Dressing sexy also means talking about underwear. It doesn't matter whether you are preparing for a hot evening or a candid date: lingerie must always be the first thought when you want to create a truly sensual mix and match. First of all for how wearing a seductive set will make you feel, secondly because if necessary your bra could become part (if not the protagonist!) of the outfit and thirdly because underwear can turn into a great ally capable of enhancing the forms.
Furthermore, there is nothing less sexy than the wrong lingerie peeping out of an outfit, perhaps even a well-studied one! So be careful to have a perfectly coordinated bra and panties with a refined and intriguing allure, but also be careful always to choose the right fit, model, and color for both the mix and match and your body shape.
4. PLAY WITH FABRICS
Textures of yarns and materials play a huge role in a sexy look that works right. The sensory pleasure, both visual and tactile, generated by certain textures manages to give life to what we could define as fashion-aphrodisiacs, did you know that?
And so of course, to dress sexy, go for lace and organza for transparencies, silk tops, and slip-dresses, or choose a slightly glossy piece: they can be tremendously sensual. The trick is to play on contrasts, both in terms of volume and textures: try combining silk and cashmere or completing a look with a patent leather accessory. You will be surprised by the sexy charge that a simple touch can give.
5. OOPS … THE BEAUTY OF NATURALNESS
At this point, you may be wondering: “ Where are the high heels and bustiers? ”. It may seem strange to you but - like any cliché linked to the " sexy " imagery - they are not absolute must-haves. Indeed, we could safely say that elements such as 12 stilettos or other certainly very feminine details can be truly seductive only if they are well placed in the context, from the look as a whole to the occasion for which you are dressed. Remember: a sexy outfit is not a forced assembly of standard clothes and accessories.
What makes an outfit fascinating is the naturalness with which the mix-and-match pieces blend and are appropriate for the situation you are experiencing. All seasoned with a pinch of seemingly random mischief. You might not believe it, but you can be super-hot even with a jeans-pullover-loafers combo if – oops! - the shoulder of the sweater drops accidentally revealing a silk and lace top, actually designed ad hoc. Or in a trouser suit, if a bralette emerges from under the blazer by surprise.
In short, when wondering how to dress sexy it is good to free yourself from the imagination of the sexy woman all in stiletto heels and fishnet stockings. Sensual clothing, like sensuality itself, is something much more subtle and (at least apparently!) natural.
If you found our advice on how to dress sensually and elegantly useful, you might also be interested in Lingerie mon amour: 5 tips to always be in order (under the dress).
